Over the years, I have worked with many people living with HIV. During that time, services have changed and treatments have changed, but the one thing that has always been a part of what I do is helping people figure out how to tell others that they are HIV positive. Disclosure is a challenge faced by many people living with HIV. Telling someone that you are HIV positive can help with the stresses of living with HIV. But knowing who to tell and how to tell them can be a hard decision. You can’t know for sure how someone will react or if they will work with you to manage your privacy.
Here are some of the questions I ask to assist someone in making a good decision.
- Who do you want to tell and why do you want them to know? What will it do for you?
- How much are you ready to share?
- What do they know about HIV and AIDS?
- Are they ready to hear that you have HIV?
- How will disclosing your HIV status affect you?
- How will it affect the people you tell?